Get The F*ck Off Your Screen
“To shut down an argument over whether my kid could have more screen time (no, no and no), I sent myself to my room until I was ready to talk calmly. Then I got online to research Outward Bound programs and text my friend Lia about how much I hate the other people I live with texting their friends. Irony, noted.
Lia had a great idea …so I wrote a thing”
It’s not a parenting manual or a digital detox program. It’s a cocktail fable about the scene playing out in homes all over America, and you can totally get your very own copy on Amazon.com. -Sybil Kelly
Why Today’s Super-Connected Kids Are Growing Up Less Rebellious, More Tolerant, Less Happy–and Completely Unprepared for Adulthood–and What That Means for the Rest of Us
As this new group of young people grows into adulthood, we all need to understand them: Friends and family need to look out for them; businesses must figure out how to recruit them and sell to them; colleges and universities must know how to educate and guide them. And members of iGen also need to understand themselves as they communicate with their elders and explain their views to their older peers. Because where iGen goes, so goes our nation—and the world.
With generational divides wider than ever, parents, educators, and employers have an urgent need to understand today’s rising generation of teens and young adults. Born in the mid-1990s to the mid-2000s and later, iGen is the first generation to spend their entire adolescence in the age of the smartphone. With social media and texting replacing other activities, iGen spends less time with their friends in person—perhaps why they are experiencing unprecedented levels of anxiety, depression, and loneliness.
In this revolutionary book, Adam Alter, a professor of psychology and marketing at NYU, tracks the rise of behavioral addiction, and explains why so many of today’s products are irresistible. Though these miraculous products melt the miles that separate people across the globe, their extraordinary and sometimes damaging magnetism is no accident. The companies that design these products tweak them over time until they become almost impossible to resist.
By reverse engineering behavioral addiction, Alter explains how we can harness addictive products for the good—to improve how we communicate with each other, spend and save our money, and set boundaries between work and play—and how we can mitigate their most damaging effects on our well-being, and the health and happiness of our children.
Technology has become the ultimate controller of our relationships. Online, we stumble upon the illusion of companionship, gathering thousands of Twitter and Facebook friends, and confusing tweets, instagram posts, with authentic communication. But this relentless connection leads to a false sense of community, often leading to depression or attachment issues when teens like myself are afraid of losing this community if we were to avoid phone usage. MIT professor Sherry Turkle argues that as technology ramps up, our emotional lives ramp down. Based on hundreds of interviews, Alone Together describes changing, unsettling relationships between friends, lovers, and families. It’s a truly fantastic book I would very very highly recommend.
THE BIG DISCONNECT
Clinical psychologist Catherine Steiner-Adair takes an in-depth look at how the Internet and the digital revolution are profoundly changing childhood and family dynamics, and offers solutions parents can use to successfully “shepherd their children through the technological wilderness.”
As the focus of the family has turned to the glow of the screen—children constantly texting their friends or going online to do homework; parents working online 24/7—we are seeing a massive shift in our everyday life. Easy access to the Internet and social media has erased the boundaries that protect children from damaging exposure to excessive marketing and mature content. Parents often feel they are losing a meaningful connection with their children. Children are feeling lonely and alienated. Our world is more advanced than ever so the digital world is here to stay, but what are families losing with technology’s gain?
My parents wish I was born with this manual in hand…
RESET YOUR CHILDS BRAIN (before their phone does)
Increasing numbers of parents grapple with children who are acting out without obvious reason. Revved up and irritable, many of these children are diagnosed with ADHD, bipolar illness, autism, or other disorders but don’t respond well to treatment. They are then medicated, often with poor results and unwanted side effects. Based on emerging scientific research and extensive clinical experience, integrative child psychiatrist Dr. Victoria Dunckley has pioneered a four-week program to treat the frequent underlying cause, Electronic Screen Syndrome (ESS) (yes that’s for real).